I read something about a letter from your parents. It basically
said you are still my baby and how much I worry about you and please tell me
you are fine. As a mom I totally
understand that, especially when I still call Noah my baby, he says I am your
big boy. He is right but I remind him he will always be my baby. I think you should let your parents know how
you are, it is important. I also think
that parents should help their children, even when they are adults. No one is perfect and sometimes people need
help from their mom or dad. I don’t understand the mentality some parents have
where they can’t wait until their kids move out, turn 18 or they get as far as
possible from their child. I personally
think the moment you become a parent, you are a parent for forever. Your job is
not over when your child is not 18 or 21 or moves out. You cannot retire from parenthood. You are still required to provide emotional
support for your children, be their crutch, be their rock, be the one that they
can run to when they need help.
We grow up relying on our parents. That is something we
figure out the day we are born. We know that these giant people are our parents
and their job is to take care of us and comfort us. It’s not a learned behavior. I don’t see why
that should change when you are an adult.
You are not blessed with all the wisdom and knowledge on your eighteenth
birthday, although some people think so. Life is just a series of choices and
events and sometimes things don’t work out like we planned. I believe in someone being able to make
mistakes and learn from them, but sometimes you need help. It might be financially, relationship wise or
anything really. You just can’t turn
your back on your child and let them fend for themselves. You can’t offer them suggestions like telling
them they need to do something ridiculous.
When Noah grows up, I want to make sure he knows he can
always come to me for help and emotional support or anything he needs. I will make sure he knows every day how much I
love him, how special he is and how proud I am of him. After all that is what
we do for our kids. I don’t think that
just because someday Noah will be an adult that I will turn in my mom card and
be done. Being a parent is truly a lifelong
commitment.
