I mentioned in my peer pressure post, I would talk about a
girl I once knew. I met this girl when
we were in sixth grade and became friends; she was really shy but seemed really
nice. Somewhere in seventh grade we weren’t friends anymore. We both went through school without any
interaction, we went to a huge school so it was possible and we didn’t have any
classes together. We were never enemies, or got in verbal confrontations, she
became a girl I would occasionally hear her name and maybe possibly see her in
the hall. We both moved on with our lives and then in 2007 we became
reacquainted. At first it was weird, because she didn’t really care for me
much, but holding on to something that happened in the sixth grade is just
silly. We became friends again; I wouldn’t consider that we were really close.
She spent a lot of time with some of my other friends so we hung out. She and I
hung out just us maybe three times to this day.
Shortly after this happened we moved to Florida, we still stayed in
touch, because I hadn’t seen the big fireworks going off warning me to run for
the hills.
I knew she had some issues with her ex, and stuff like that,
I could relate to her in that respect. I knew that she was hurting and I wanted
to reach out and be her friend. I remember a specific time that she threatened
to call the cops on me, because I didn’t agree with the legal advice some lady
was giving her. She wasn’t a lawyer, she actually didn’t know what she was
talking about at all. So, this girl and I stopped talking, I can’t be mixed up
in that. I am a mom and I don’t have time to really deal with this kind of
behavior and then she called me. She used her “wounded animal” voice and I
stupidly started talking to her again. This time she thought she was pregnant;
well she always thought she was pregnant.
I felt sorry for her, she completely down spiraled from
there. She would meet these guys that
were no good, she even went as far as trying to change her ultrasound from the
child she miscarried to fake a pregnancy, which she later said it was a
miscarriage. I have had a miscarriage and that really upset me and made me very
angry. I started ignoring her calls, texts, ims you name it, I ignored it. That
was not ok. I found out through mutual friends that she had been engaging in
criminal activities. She would call the police at a drop of a hat, and it even
got to the point where she cried wolf so many times, the police didn’t believe
her anymore. I was suckered in to
talking to her a few more times, I felt bad, I wanted to help. You can’t help
someone who won’t help themselves. I honestly still feel bad for her, but my
family comes first. I can’t have someone who is engaging in behaviors where I
could get in trouble and go to jail or worse around me or my family. I don’t
want to be innocently going to the mall or out to eat with her and land in jail
for her actions. That is not someone I want to be a role model. I know that
it’s her life and her choices but personally, I can’t have that around me.
As I said before, I believe that you have the right to pick
your own friends, but be careful and watch out for the warning signs that
something might not be right. I would hate for any of you to be at the wrong
place at the wrong time and regret it.
